I think it is funny when in a relationship how both parties expect particular things. The reason that I find this funny is because both parties expect things however most of the time these things are not relayed to one another! Unfortunately I realized this concept in my first marriage and I say unfortunately because I realized all of this too late. Going into the second marriage I have tried to communicate these things.
     Communication is key in a marriage along with honesty and love. With no communication there are lots of things that need to be said that never are that have the potential to break down the foundation of the marriage itself. Little things count whether it be a text just to say "Hey I was thinking about you" or " I love you". There doesn't have to be some long drawn out conversation at that point just a little note to say I was thinking about you! Guys, girls love this or atleast I do! It makes someone feel special and like they matter! Women, it can go vice versa but some guys aren't as sentimental about these things.
     If I am in a relationship with someone I want to come first and foremost outside of children! I don't need someone up my butt 24/7 but I do want to feel important. I try to make sure my husband knows that he is always on my mind even if it is grabbing him a bottle of his favorite coffee creamer at the store. Atleast I thought about him. However, yet again I WANT THIS TOO!!! What ever happened to whooing someone or showing affection. Marriages have the tendancy to fall apart because people grow away from one another! These little things can help in a relationship!! I promise if you don't want to do this or you don't have time for your significant other I promise someone else will!
     I want my husband to be happy even if that means doing things that I do not want to do that tend to make me unhappy but it makes me happy to see him happy if that makes sense! Sometimes you have to be selfless not SELFISH! That's not what life is about. They say you can't let people control you happiness and you can't but people sure can add to it! I try to be as selfless as possible but I think it's about time for me to hop on the make myself happy train even if that means making someone else mad! I swore I would never be one of those miserable people and I refuse to change now!!! So for those people who aren't going to like this change don't piss me off and as far as I am concerned you can suck it!! Because if I don't make myself happy NOBODY else will!!!